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i'm a wedding and portrait photographer in kansas city!

I fell in love with creating a space for people to be themselves several years ago. Since then I have photographed so many people who care about each other deeply and I love sharing their stories with anyone who will listen.

Hey, I'm Tay!

We want a child-free wedding, help!

We didn’t allow children at our wedding. Was this a popular move? No. Did we care? A little. However, we also meant it.

I photograph around 20 weddings every year between my own and helping other people. I love children, but that means I’ve also seen all the ways they can impact a wedding from both sides. Do I ever mind if my couples have children at their weddings? Hell no. I love meeting your children, nieces, nephews and I love that you want these kiddos to be such a special and important part of your day. I absolutely love it. It’s just not for me and it wasn’t for my husband either.

How did you approach your child-free wedding?

Hi Friends! We are choosing to have an adults only wedding! We are keeping our guest list fairly small and would love for you to have a stress free wedding experience. There will be plenty of alcohol and a lengthy open dance, so bring your dancing shoes and call the sitter!

Thank you so much for understanding and we can’t wait to party with y’all!

We put it on the website and our RSVPs were very specific about who was invited. I made a Facebook post explaining our decision as well. We didn’t owe anyone an explanation, but we gave one. Also “adults only” sounds and feels more polite than “child free”.

Our invites also had a message on them. (They were electronic) I made an inside card with “reminders” on it.

We love your kiddos, but this is an adults only celebration. Grab a sitter and hit the dance floor!”

If you like this verbiage, use it. Tweak it to fit your personality if you need to!

No one will come if you don’t invite kids.

We still had more show up than actually RSVPed, but we were prepared for that and we completely understood. Some people can’t get sitters. Some people didn’t want sitters. Some people will be offended and I get it. Your children are your life and I love their presence in yours and mine, but we still wanted a kid free night.

Why?

I’m a nervous human being. Getting up and saying my vows in front of our 115 guests was difficult for me. The thought of having to extend it or have people strain to hear due to a little one throwing a fit or having their parents miss out because they’re comforting their kid wasn’t something I wanted to have happen.

I didn’t want people leaving right after the ceremony because their kid wanted a nap and couldn’t hang anymore. There was a huge chance that I would step on a kid on the dance floor. We also paid for our wedding ourselves. With 115 guests if we invited every child, our food bill would have gone up and if you’re doing plated meals? I’m sure that gets even pricier. We also had an open bar with NSFW music playing where f-bombs were dropped pretty continuously.

There were a lot of things to consider.

kid free wedding celebration

Alternative ideas:

  • Invite the kiddos for the reception and not the ceremony
  • Hire a sitter if your friend group/family members have kids and it’s in the budget. Maybe even in a room at the venue so your guests know they’re within reach and well taken care of.
  • Throw in some kid activities. I’ve seen coloring books, movie screenings, etc.
  • “No children” causing tension in your family? Try reaching out to your family to let them know they’re the exception. Make those kids flower people or ring carriers. Give them jobs so their presence makes sense and to make your day even more adorable.

Remember that it’s “your day, your way.” If you want all the kids at your wedding, do it. I’m excited to meet them. If you want no kids that’s your right, stick to your guns. We had someone who was a secret enforcer who would have politely asked our guests to leave. We had the request everywhere and weren’t going to let people cross the boundaries set. Only want family’s kids? That’s fine too.

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- ellen & Dru Johnston

I can't recommend Tayanna highly enough. Not only were our pictures beautiful, but also she was an incredibly wonderful person to work with. She responds to emails quickly, and was flexible and organized. On our wedding day, it was awesome to have her around: she was fun and positive, and made bridal party pics and family pics actually fun and enjoyable. She's the best.

"She's the best."

- BEBE & ryan Thompson

I am absolutely blessed to have chosen Tay for my elopement, both as a photographer and an ordained minister. It was an intimate ceremony and something so special that I will never forget. The ceremony and photos took place in the very cold snow, because I love snow! Tay was a champ making sure I got the best possible images that would bring back memories of this day forever! I have already had many people tell me that they were some of the best wedding photos they’ve ever seen! 😊 if you’re planning on eloping or need photos for your big wedding, Tay is your girl!

"Tay is your girl!"

jordan & eric dalbey

Tayanna is amazing! Her pictures are beautiful, she listens to exactly what you are looking for, helps you come up with a timeline for your big day and makes you feel comfortable having your picture taken. She was recommended to me by 2 friends whose wedding pictures I loved and after meeting with her I knew she was the one to capture our wedding day. Now I'm recommending her to you! Hire her. You'll be so happy you did!

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