First of all, I am not here to force anyone to do anything they do not want to do. First looks are a big decision due to its complete step away from a traditional wedding where both partners don’t see each other until the big “aisle reveal”. I’ll give you some of my favorite reasons to have a first look, and a couple of good alternatives. One is if you’re against seeing each other and one if you’d like to go one step further.
I understand that some people want traditional, they want the surprise, they want that feeling of being given away or meeting their partner in front of the ones they love with complete and total surprise.
We can totally do that. But I also have an idea you might love and want to incorporate. If you trust me and my team to get you in and out without seeing one another, this may be for you.
write a letter
Yes, I know what year it is. Yes, you can type it. But think about it. You can pull that letter out when you have your first real married fight to remember how you felt. You can show it to your kids one day, your grandkids, your best friends that need a reminder of what love is.
We’ll find some cute chairs or a nice big door and we’ll make it happen if you want. Just remember that there are so many ways to create these moments and I’m all for giving you a hand.
Want a first look but not with your partner? Bring the person who raised you, the person who influenced you as an adult, the person who you admire the most. Hell, maybe even just your best friends. I swear there won’t be a dry eye in the house.
Here’s a photo of my mom and my husband’s mom seeing us for the first time after we chose to get ready together.
Get ready together.
You can read more about our wedding day and decisions we made here, but this was the second most important one to me. (Right after walking down the aisle together) I was nervous, I was scared, and I don’t do crowds. You wouldn’t believe how comforting it was to dress my partner and have him do the same on our day. Don’t be afraid to do something different, comforting, and unique for your own day.